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Mother Instinct

Being a mom is great, but it comes with responsibilities that are sometimes not to my liking. One of them is taking care of barf and boo-boos. I am married to a medic, and believe me, that comes in handy usually. But when in medic mode, Hero Guy treats the wee ones like every other patient and sometimes mother instinct just takes over and I have to step in. Now this is difficult for me since I have always been a bit squeamish. From the earliest time when people would ask "So, are you going to be a nurse like your mom?" I would emphatically decline. I am a medical transcriptionist and you can regularly see me typing along with a knot in my stomach, a look of disgust on my face as I listen to the details of some unfortunate patient having their ingrown toenail removed. It is hard enough for me to listen to it described, and I certainly won't sign up to actually view it in progress.

Thus, when Little Chic crashed on her scooter in the last hour of our camping trip, I readily volunteered Hero Guy to bandage her up. But when it came time to remove the bandage, we discovered that it had been left on too long, and the gauze was firmly implanted in the dried-up goo that had oozed from Little Chic's wound. Hero Guy began soaking the gauze and at the point he realized it was not going to come off easily, he described the painful process Little Chic would have to endure to get it off, and she began to howl. His method is quick and simple, do what you have to do and just get it done. My sympathy began flowing in full tilt and I intervened to say that I would remove it slowly and as painlessly as possible.

Hero Guy let me take over, but disapproved of my Qtip, water and two-hour method versus his bite-the-bullet and rip it off. I will have to say that I think Little Chic cried a lot more while I was doing it since it stretched into such a long process and she still went to bed traumatized. Her tolerance for pain and grossness is about like mine, so it probably would have been better to take the short version and get it over with.

However, this morning, she is in fine form, we both have dried our tears and Hero Guy did say he admired my patience. And we will not be asking him to put another bandage on it either.

Comments

Unknown said…
Sometimes I forget those type things that moms and dads have to tend to. You had me squirming as I read this but I'm so happy to hear she is much better this morning.
Anonymous said…
Poor little Caroline!!! That must have hurt, and I'm sure you were both exhausted after two hours. I prefer female doctors over male doctors of all professions, not because I think they are better at it, I just think that in general they are more compassionate and caring because they are female. :-)
Rochelle said…
Wow, that took a lot of patience, but I know it was worth it. I'm always glad I can wait until my patients are under anesthesia before I start hurting them!
PandaMom said…
She will forget the hurt of the fall, but will always remember her Mama taking care of her! ; )
Anonymous said…
I am just like you Jennifer, Chris is the one that has to step in to fix a boo boo. I am the one to comfort while he tends to it. When Camron got stitches in the corner of his left eye at 17 months old, I had to leave the ER room (about to faint), while Chris stayed. I felt like a horrible mom but Chris wanted him to remember that trauma with his dad, not his mom (who is usually the comforter, nurturer, etc). I will tell you, as soon as he got out, I did NOT let that little boy go!
~Sue
Rach said…
I would have used your method as well. Especially if your dh's method meant reopening the wound again. Ick!

What us Moms have to endure through the lives of our children hey?
alane said…
I've just started med school and can definitely appreciate your story. There's always a fine line between tenderness and doing it the "doctor way". :)

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